Do you have a friend or family member who struggles in the area of organizing? Would you like to suggest they get some help, but you are not quite sure how to broach this touchy subject?
How do you bring it up without sounding judgmental?
When we care about someone it is natural for us to want what is best for them.
Here are some things to consider if you want to enter into discussion with someone:
- Does the person acknowledge to you that there is a problem or that they want to make a change in their surroundings? This is a critical first step.
- Due to embarrassment, it is often difficult for someone to even consider allowing people into their disorganized space. Sometimes, the option of a neutral third party might be appealing. Rarely are any of us embarrassed to call our hairdresser, our lawyer, our real estate agent or any other professional. It is “ok” to need help with organization. If organizing isn’t their gift remind your loved one that means they are GREAT at lots of other things! We ALL have gifts that God has given us to share.
- Acknowledging the emotional side of the issue can be helpful. It will keep you away from judgmental thinking. Lots of individuals are bogged down in this area. Organization is the foundation for life. Try to walk a mile in their shoes…..
- An advantage to working with someone to get organized is that not all of the responsibility and decision making falls on their shoulders alone. It is good to share the burden and partner with someone.
- It is good to have an objective third party to walk this journey. This is often a better scenario, rather than a family member who has a history with them.
If your loved one is interested in learning more, perhaps they might consider a no obligation complimentary consultation with Heart of the Matter. We are here and ready to listen and support their process!
In order . . . . to live a life of purpose
You or someone you know living in CHAOS? CHAOS can stand for Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome.
